Whether they’re being asked for advice about unrequited love, dyke bed death, or romantic codependence, Bad Gay will, not uncommonly, prompt their readers with a gentle question: What is your commitment to suffering? (But only after doing the written version of what my dad used to resort to when my sisters and I were being stupid, which was pick us up by our shirts and conk our heads together like coconuts.)
This question has turned into a running joke between us and our subscribers—the precious darlings we adore with the all-consuming heat of a million gay suns—so much so that when the good doctor suggested it as the theme for our next BAD GAY giveaway, I immediately agreed.
So here’s the deal: Until midnight EST on Wednesday, November 10, everyone who sends a question on this theme to badgayadvice@gmail.com will be entered in a raffle to win a $25 gift card to Bluestockings1, New York's only queer, trans AND sex worker run bookstore! (Don’t forget that everyone who submits a question—giveaway or not—gets 3 months of GOOD ADVICE // BAD GAY for free. That is a FifTEen DOllAr vaLUe.)
What do we mean by theme? Use your imagination. I know you can make What is your commitment to suffering? apply to your life.
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