this is outrageously good and should have 10,000 likes and comments
i made the transition from eldest daughter to nonbinary ingrate and have never been better off for it. i sometimes meet eldest daughters who did not escape in any meaningful way even mentally, and it freaks me out so much. if I can share in the comments, it feels to me that parentification is a kind of abuse, not "just" neglect (though neglect is, of course, bad enough.) it's neglectful to not meet your childrens' core needs; it's abusive to use your power to make them meet yours.
I read Heartbreaking Work at age 17 or something and it really stuck with me, but i never understood why until now. thanks.
this is outrageously good and should have 10,000 likes and comments
i made the transition from eldest daughter to nonbinary ingrate and have never been better off for it. i sometimes meet eldest daughters who did not escape in any meaningful way even mentally, and it freaks me out so much. if I can share in the comments, it feels to me that parentification is a kind of abuse, not "just" neglect (though neglect is, of course, bad enough.) it's neglectful to not meet your childrens' core needs; it's abusive to use your power to make them meet yours.
I read Heartbreaking Work at age 17 or something and it really stuck with me, but i never understood why until now. thanks.
I'm so found to have glad this Davids. It's making beautiful little movements for me. Thank you for writing.